An emotional, physical or verbal is not an easy thing to cope up with. Abusers create an unfair playing field so they can be in control. Tactics abusers use includes intimidation, humiliation and isolation. It is learnt around 70% of women in India are victims of domestic violence, according to Renuka Chowdhury junior minister for women and child development.
The National Crime Records Bureau reveal that a crime against a woman is committed every three minutes, a woman is raped every 29 minutes, a dowry death occurs every 77 minutes, and one case of cruelty committed by either the husband or relative of the victim occurs every nine minutes.
This all occurs despite the fact that women in India are legally protected; a hype of awareness campaigns and the struggle in changing social outlook has been in vain. In India domestic abuse is implemented under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.
Although if you are in a space of abuse where there is nothing much you can do to make your husband stop being abusive, you can regain some control over your life to make it better.
Follow the steps:
Living with emotional and verbal abuse can take its toll on your health and general well-being. Take care of yourself and find healthy ways to deal with the stress of an abusive marriage. Eat healthy foods and try to get enough rest. Remind yourself of your unique qualities and talents. Indulge in a hobby or interest you enjoy. Try starting an exercise routine or reading a good book to escape for a while.
Keep your support system strong. Try to maintain your relationships with friends and family as much as you can. Your husband may try to limit the amount of time you spend with others or sabotage your friendships. Still you can strive as much as possible.
Learn about the dynamics of abusive relationships. Knowing more about the pattern of abuse will help you understand that the abuse is not your fault but is something your husband chooses to do. Speak to a domestic violence advocate in your community or to speak with one of their advocates.
Calmly letting him know that you are sorry he feels that way, but that you expect him to treat you with respect. If he continues, simply walk out of the room and give him time to cool off. There is no point in matching-up to an argument when you are being verbally abused.
Always prepare a safety plan; your plan should include identifying safe areas of your home and planning an escape route. You should keep a phone with you at all times and know who you can call for help. Create a code word or signal so trusted friends and neighbors know if you need emergency assistance.
Walking out of such a relationship is the only best choice rather than living with the fright of being abused or even killed. An abusive person is a mentally ill, he needs assistance. If you really love your husband give him a chance and talk it out to him but if your generosity is taken for granted and yourself respect is circumcised it is better to walk out of the relationship.
Your husband might be abusive and do wrong to you but tolerating any kind of abuse is also wrong on your part.