Actor Deepika Padukone has once again spoken openly about the emotional transformation that comes with motherhood, highlighting the complex feelings many new mothers experience while balancing deep attachment to their child with the need for personal space.
Although the actor has kept her daughter Dua largely away from the public eye, she has occasionally shared glimpses of her emotional journey as a new parent. Recently, Deepika reshared a video on her Instagram Stories that resonated with many mothers.
The message in the video captured the emotional contradiction many parents quietly experience: loving their child intensely while simultaneously longing for a short break or moment of silence.
The note read: “My toxic trait is loving my child so much that I don’t want anyone else watching them… but I desperately need a break… but I can’t stand being without them… but I also crave 24 hours of silence… but I still want to be with them 24/7.”
Motherhood brings a profound shift
Earlier, while speaking at the WAVES 2025 summit, Deepika reflected on how motherhood has reshaped her outlook on life and responsibility.
“I’m discovering this new life post-embracing motherhood,” she said, explaining that becoming a parent means suddenly being responsible for another human being who depends entirely on you.
She acknowledged that before becoming a mother, much of her life had centred on personal ambition and career goals. However, motherhood has introduced a new dimension where the child naturally becomes the priority.
“That person comes before you,” she said, adding that she is still navigating how to balance the new responsibilities with her own identity.
Why mothers often feel guilty
Psychologists say the emotional conflict described by Deepika is common among new mothers.
According to psychologist Rasshi Gurnani, hormonal changes after childbirth can intensify emotional sensitivity and protective instincts, strengthening the maternal bond.
At the same time, social expectations often promote the idea of “intensive mothering”, where a mother is expected to be constantly present and self-sacrificing.
This can create internal conflict: while mothers understand the importance of rest and shared caregiving, they may still feel guilt when taking time for themselves.
Importance of balance and self-identity
Experts emphasise that strong attachment between mother and child is healthy but should not result in a loss of personal identity.
Maintaining personal interests, career goals and self-care routines helps prevent emotional burnout and supports long-term wellbeing.
Psychologists also note that secure attachment does not require constant physical presence. Children can feel emotionally secure even when mothers take short breaks, provided routines and trusted caregivers are in place.
Practising self-compassion, building support systems and scheduling intentional personal time can help mothers manage the emotional push-and-pull between caregiving and personal space.
Ultimately, experts say recognising that such mixed emotions are normal can help mothers navigate the journey of parenthood with greater confidence and balance.