Every child experiences moments where they feel inadequate, deficient, or not good enough when compared to others. Whether they score low on an exam or worry that they are not as skilled on the playground, it’s not uncommon for kids to compare themselves unfavourably to their peers.
In fact, experiencing feelings of inadequacy from time to time is normal and sometimes could be the catalyst for a kid’s need to work harder or make improvements. But there are times when these comparisons and beliefs morph into something more significant that ultimately leads to self-deprecation and low self-worth.
When this happens, kids can become stuck in their feelings of inferiority, making it difficult for them to push forward or accomplish their goals. Ultimately, they develop what is sometimes referred to as an inferiority complex.
Difference between low self-esteem and inferiority complex
Low self-esteem has to do with a lack of confidence in some areas—how a person thinks about their looks or their decisions. Low self-esteem also can lead to feelings of inferiority (while)inferiority involves overall deep feelings of deficiency toward other people.
Causes of inferiority
There are a number of reasons why a child might struggle with inferiority. Some examples include being bullied consistently, being criticised regularly by peers or siblings, or growing up in an emotionally abusive home. For many kids, feelings of inferiority are highly situational and only occur on occasion.
But those who struggle with the issue regularly, they likely feel invalidated consistently – either at home, school, or in the community. Even kids from healthy, well-adjusted families can struggle with issues of inferiority.
If your child is struggling with feelings of inferiority, you may be wondering what you can do to help. Here are some things you can do to help combat the negative thoughts and beliefs your child is harbouring and help them improve how they see themselves.
Provide encouragement
When kids are dealing with issues of inferiority, they have a hard time believing in themselves. Consequently, it is important that parents encourage their kids and help them see themselves in a different light. Help them find healthy peers and outlets, too, like a hobby or sport they enjoy.
Help them to see the plus not minus
Some kids spend too much time focusing on the negative aspects of their life or personality instead of focusing on what is good. Help your child identify things that they are good at or where they can excel. Then, support them in those endeavours.
Do not compare with other children
Too many times, parents fall into the trap of comparing their kids or pitting them against one another. They may even compare their kids to other children in their lives. But comparisons can be hurtful, especially if it’s in an area where they already feel insecure.
Every child feels down about themselves from time to time, especially if they are struggling in a certain area academically or athletically. But, if your child is regularly expressing feelings of low self-worth, claiming that they are not good enough, and refusing to participate in social activities, they may be struggling with inferiority.
