A woman recently shared her disappointment on Reddit after being asked to be a bridesmaid at her best friend Megan’s wedding, only to be hit with a staggering list of expenses. Initially honored by the request, the excitement quickly turned to shock when Megan sent an email detailing the hefty costs involved. The list included dress charges, hair and makeup, a bachelorette party deposit, a gift for the bride, and miscellaneous expenses. The woman, already managing student loan repayments and other financial obligations, expressed her concerns, only to receive a dismissive response from Megan, who insisted these expenses were “the norm” for modern weddings.
Megan’s cold response, saying, “If you can’t afford to be in my wedding, I understand, but I can’t change the plans for everyone else,” left the woman feeling “awkward” and “disappointed.” Since then, Megan has stopped speaking to her.
This story ignited a discussion online, with many Reddit users sharing their opinions. One user suggested, “If you can’t afford it, simply decline with grace and still show support for your friend.” Another user expressed frustration with the bride’s attitude, calling her “money-hungry” for expecting such high costs from friends.
A long-time wedding participant shared a more pragmatic view: “A true friend would understand your situation, but how she responds may tell you more about the nature of your friendship.” The post has sparked a broader debate on the rising financial pressure of weddings and the expectations brides place on their bridesmaids.
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